The Comfort Wall:
Words of Inspiration from Parents of Children with Special Needs
The Comfort Wall offers inspirational words, comments and thoughts from parents who take the best moments from their situation and leave the rest behind.
Let’s face it, as a parent of a special needs child, some days are better than others. Being a caregiver to any child brings with it unforeseen challenges. But, a relationship with a special child brings with it its own gifts including perspective, wisdom, faith and love. If you have words of comfort, thoughts or ideas for parents needing support we'd love to hear from you.
I've quit trying to get Tyson to be like other kids. I realized that when we celebrated being unique it made us all so much happier.
Sometimes, the changes you are hoping for happen when you least expect them.
I remind myself that I have twenty failures to every one success. But that one success is better than all those failures combined.
Yes, I created her, but then she re-created me.
Get your energy from those moments when you love your child with all of your heart, put them away in your memory bank and think of them every night as you drift off to sleep.
My husband and I talk about the things in life we are grateful for and of course, our daughter is always at the top of the list.
From Marc and Allison
I want to talk to my son about football, tell jokes and share stories about girls. I’m not going to deprive our relationship of that just because he happens to have cerebral palsy.
When I’m stressed, I take a moment and remember that he didn’t ask for this disability.
Although many times I have felt completely isolated, I know that my situation isn't that uncommon. Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t make you weak; it reminds you that you just need a little help.
Comparing my child to others only made me feel nervous about his future and didn’t do him any good. Finally, I realized that I was really comparing him to this ideal I had in my head. Once I let that go, he could finally be himself.
It’s okay to be angry that your child has autism. Over the past five years, we’ve been through the classic five stages of grief. I want to tell other parents that a child’s future is worth grieving over, but it is not the end of the world. During our moments of happiness, we often forget that our son has autism. His accomplishments are so great it is always a reason to celebrate.
From Rick and Sarah
Helping Samantha grow has made us all stronger, prouder and wiser than we would have ever been without her.
My son has Asperger’s syndrome. I knew it from the moment he was born. You can’t give a child with Asperger’s nine months in a warm, nurturing environment and them tell them one day that the party’s over!
I am my child’s advocate and sometimes I have to go to war for him. But, there is nothing more gratifying than doing the right thing for your child.
It’s painful sometimes to watch a stranger’s reactions to my child. I wish people would realize that a little empathy goes a long way. But, I remind myself that these comments come from ignorance or that these people just have bad manners.
Being a special needs parent has transformed the way I look at life and thinking back, I’m happy about it. I have developed so much courage. Besides, I can now tolerate pretty much any level of weirdness.
When I first learned of my child’s diagnoses, I was determined to pull him out of his world. Slowly, I’ve realized, his world is beautiful too.
My son loves without limits, his heart is so innocent and pure. He fills my world with unbelievable joy.
Our nightly ritual includes naming five things we are grateful for. My son always says, I’m grateful I can do anything I want to do. And I remind him that yes, he can.
I know I have truly done something meaningful in my life.
I realize why God gave me Braydon. He is a very precious gift who has taught me patience, tolerance, acceptance, and the desire to succeed. Mostly, he has taught us unconditional love and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel for all of us who are willing to find it.
As I sit here at night waiting anxiously to see what tomorrow will bring, I remind myself of how many times Jonavan has waited patiently to be accepted. As that thought fills my mind, I know I have to be passionate, courageous and willing to do just about anything for him.
How fortunate we are to have a child with a disability. God sent him to us with a purpose in mind. We do not ever question why. We thank HIM everyday for our precious gift.
My 17 year old son is Autistic. Our family went to a fundraiser where my 8 year old daughter read a sign that said "CURE AUTISM." She turned to me and said, "I wouldn't want them to cure autism, because then Conner wouldn't be Conner."
My 15 year old son has sickle cell anemia. Even when he is having a crisis, he is still loving and caring. He is what keeps his father and I pushing to the future. We have no time for would've, could've, should've.
The Lord does not make mistakes, your child is truly a blessing.
It takes Godly patience to deal with a special needs child. Just remember, you have good and bad days too. They did not ask for this either.
If not for my son's differences and struggles, I would have not have realized the extent of the blessing that I've been given in being his mom. I also wouldn't have realized how truly amazing the little accomplishments are, even in my typically developing daughter. He is a precious gift, even on the worst days.
If you child has special needs, you are a very special parent too for God only chose loving parents who he know could provide the love and care needed to guide your child.
My son Seth has autism and epilepsy and I know why God gave him to us. He teaches us and shares his joy of the Lord with everyone. He likes to put things where they go (unlike his mother). He likes to do his chores (unlike his two bothers). He also chose my career and allows me to help others. I thank God for Seth, my husband and my two other typical boys.
Life is different when you have a child with a disabiity. I don't make eye contact with people if I feel they are staring and I get defensive. My son doesn't seem to notice or mind, for he is loving and kind to all.
There was a time that I pity my son because he has autism. Now I realized that he doesn't need pity, he needs my
love, understanding & patience. He makes me a better person today.
My brother has a disability and I'm proud of him. Everytime someone asks me why his eyes move too fast or why he holds the
paper up to his face, I don't get upset. Instead, I teach those who are in need of teaching.
Today I taught one of my "exceptional" students a trick that finally helped him learn long division. Helooked up at me with sincerety and said,"Wow! You are just like...Magic!" I hope his Mamma knows how special he is to me! He sure made this teachers job worth it!
Parents of special needs children are sometimes torn because we know we have to let our children be as independent as they can be. I say follow your heart and advocate for them when they can't do it for themseves.
Every child is a blessing from God, disabled or not.
I'm here to help. I have had several years experience providing support services decades ago. Now wish I could do more with folks in their homes. Why? ... because of all the things you all just mentioned. Thanks for inspiring me.
Thank you for this....sniff... we have been in denial for nine years...and have caused our son too much unnecessary
I'm so thankful to have found this comfort wall. Everyone's thoughts and inspirational words have truly brought comfort to me.
They are still special,very special....my son has a learning disability and it's heartbreaking. But I love him and
support him....it's what God has given us. Let us accept and love them.
Parents of special needs children are chosen by God because they too are special indeed.
Everyone is born with unique gifts and abilities. Kids that have disabilities are no different, just challenged. Accepting your child at whatever level they are is the real meaning of love. Stay strong.
When my husband is having a hard time dealing with our first born's disability, I always tell him, "God gave him to
us, because he knew that You and I are two people who can take care of him better than anyone else can." It's true, God gives you what you can handle.
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